At one point or another, most men experience some problem in the bedroom. Two of the most common sexual issues men experience are erectile dysfunction and sexual performance anxiety (SPA).
While a lot of focus is given to the causes of erectile dysfunction and how to recover from it, less is spoken about sexual performance anxiety in men. But the thing is, SPA often leads to other sexual problems if not delt with properly. In other words, SPA often LEADS to erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation.
The Body / Brain Connection
Our thoughts and bodily functions are very much connected. Every thought, belief and attitude ties into our sexual urges and sexual function. When a man feels anxious about his sexual performance, his body responds negatively.
Typically speaking, SPA is usually the result of subconscious undesirable feelings. If he is stressed about the relationship, or if he suffers from some sort of low self-esteem, the body will manifest an inability to perform well.
Symptoms of Sexual Performance Anxiety
Each man is unique and how SPA manifests can and will be different in each individual. Having said that, some common physical symptoms of SPA include:
- Premature ejaculation
- Lack of erection
- Difficulty maintaining erection
- Delayed ejaculation
Psychological symptoms include:
- Avoiding sexual encounters, relationships
- Intimacy avoidance, intimacy anxiety
- Loss in sexual interest and sexual desire
If you suffer from SPA, you may find you talk yourself out of sexual encounters because your anxiety about performing poorly is off the charts.
Causes of Performance Anxiety
There are typically physical and mental reasons why sexual performance anxiety develops. For instance, many men are worried about the size of their penis or the shape of their body. Men have as many self-doubts about their physical image and traits as women do, and these can cause them to feel uptight and nervous during sex.
Modern men also have a skewed idea of what it means to be manly or what their gender role is. Men who watch a lot of porn may also feel insurmountable pressure to perform as well and for as long as the men in those videos.
Relationship issues also play a large part in the development of performance anxiety. Sometimes men feel anxiety when they lose interest in their partner, and sometimes men feel anxiety when they fall deeper in love with their partner. Spoiler alert, men also have complex emotional lives and their emotions can negatively impact their sex lives.
What Can Men Do About Sexual Performance Anxiety?
The very first thing you need to do is to STOP beating yourself up over what you are struggling with. It’s not your fault and it’s also not helping your situation. Men that suffer from SPA are often hard on themselves for just about everything. These guys tend to be overachievers and set high expectations for their achievements in life.
If you want to resolve your SPA issues, then you really need to stop being so hard on yourself. If need be, it’s a great idea to speak with a sex therapist. He or she can help you identify what may be going on in your head and your heart that is causing your body to react the way it is.
See Your Doctor
It’s also very important to rule out any physical illness or condition that may be the root cause of your sexual performance issues. Your doctor will want to perform a checkup and run some blood tests to ensure your health is good. For instance, men suffering from type 2 diabetes may be hit with sexual performance issues and erectile dysfunction. So be sure to get checked out just to make sure everything is ok.
If your health checks out, then again, it’s most likely you are dealing with mental and emotional challenges that are affecting your body’s ability to perform. I recommend therapy again as that can be incredibly effective.
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